If there is anything challenging about living with the elderly, it is in caring for them. In most cases, you will be met with a lot of resistance. In such a case, you’ll need to be honest about the needs of your loved ones in order to understand what they need and make a decision as to whether they need senior care or not. It is very challenging indeed dealing with loved ones who needs help yet doesn’t want help. For instance, you loved ones may be having problems with taking a shower, but will still resist any help on the same.
It is important to understand what causes the resistance in the first case. Generally, most forms of elderly resistance are as a result of a loss; either physical loss, or mental loss. When you loved ones also feels that they are about to lose their independence, they may defensive and resistance towards any help you may be offering. To them, accepting senior care services or being taken to assisted living centers may mean relinquishing their privacy and adjusting to new routines. As a result, your loved one may become irritated or feel freighted because their privacy is being invaded. A sense of guilt may also creep in as your loved one may feel that he or she has become a burden to the family. Other things that may result to resistance have got to do with psychological stubbornness, as well as the worry of spending on the assisted living service providers.
Knowing and understanding what is causing the resistance is the first step to solving the problem. If you suspect that your loved one is resisting senior living or housing care including memory care, you may need to find the best way of talking to them about it. First, you need to choose the time when you think your loved one is in pleasant or relaxed mood before bring up the subject. This will make it easier for you and your loved one to listen to each other and speak your mind.
Secondly, it is important to ask questions about what your loved one prefers and offer support. Let them feel like the decision is theirs and that no one is trying to force anything on them. This will help your loved ones to become more receptive of any senior care service you may propose because they will feel that they are part of making the decision. If your loved one worry about financial matters; that is the time to discuss and make it clear who will financially manage the senior care services.
Is it good to involve other family members?
This depends on the level of closeness between the senior member and the rest of the family members. Generally, enlisting the help of other family members may help in persuading your loved one to accept change. Even if your loved one is suffering from the Alzheimer’s, it is important handle them with care and respect. Only take them to a senior care facility when they consent. If they don’t agree, you simply need to find a way of making them agreeable to the decision.
What if the resistance persists?
Giving up is not an option, especially if your loved one really needs senior care services. Let them know that you have their best interest in mind and that you want to make sure they are safe and well cared for. Scheduling a tour with a senior living community may also help to persuade your loved one to make the move and will help to ease some of the stress and tension of the situation.