What can you do if you know that your aging loved one is a hazard to him/herself and others on the road, but refuses to give up the car keys? We will discuss a number of different ways that you are able to persuade someone to retire from driving or just ensure that they do not have the option to get behind the wheel any longer. Your best option is going to depend on the personality of your loved one and the current situation.
Option #1 – Get A Driving Assessment From An Occupational Therapist
You will first have to find an occupational therapist who is a driving specialist, and you can then request a comprehensive driving evaluation for your loved one. Perhaps they are able to persuade your loved one to give up the keys.
Option #2 – Let Them Know How It Affects You
Especially during early-stage dementia, it might be a good idea to explain how their hazardous driving affects you, rather than relying on scare tactics or telling them that it might affect others. Tell them that you experience a great deal of stress because of their driving. This might help them focus on their innate love for you and concern for your well-being rather than focusing on their own feelings of anger the fact that they are losing their driving privileges. While not guaranteed to work, it is certainly worth the effort.
Option #3 – Call The Department of Motor Vehicles And File An Anonymous Report
There are a number of different states that allow you to file an anonymous report with the DMV. Here you can express concern about the person’s driving ability. After this has been reported, the DMV might ask the person to come in for a hearing and subsequent driving test. The DMV might then prescribe limitations on the license or revoke the license altogether.
Option #4 – The Importance Of Staying Strong
As a caregiver, you probably understand the importance of being patient, compassionate, and kind. However, because their driving is now becoming a matter of life and death (both for your aging loved one and for others on the road), it is important that you stay strong. Even though it might be one of the biggest challenges that you face as a caregiver, it is essential that you stand firm in your beliefs.
Option #5 – Removing The Obstacles
If you still want your loved one to be mobile, it might be a good idea to opt for a senior living facility where they have access to transportation services through the community. Carlton Senior Living offers Independent Living, Assisted Living and Memory Care communities which provide transportation to medical appointments, local shopping centers and fun outings which allows residents to be mobile and social without the worries of driving.